The whole point of meditation is to calm us down sufficiently to see the world as it really is.
To that end it involves basically two techniques. Mindfulness and One Pointedness. In a sense they are the same thing but still different. I’ll cover mindfulness in another post.
This post will be devoted to One Pointedness. It is ideal for beginners through to experienced meditators.
This technique involves focusing the mind upon a single point. Now that point can be a candle flame, a spot on a wall, or even a voice. This website will be producing meditations using voice as the focus of the mind in the near future.
Naturally when we begin or even re-begin after a break, keeping our mind focused upon that one point is surprisingly difficult. Our thoughts wander, things just pop into our heads and for any number of reasons we lose focus.
The key is to be gentle with ourselves. Realise this is all part of the process. When you notice your mind has wandered, gently, very gently, simply bring your mind back to the focus decided upon before starting.
It is easy to start berating ourselves for loosing focus, do not do this. This is just another distraction from our point of focus.
As I said, be gentle, bring your focus back and keep breathing as you re-focus onto the candle flame, the spot on the wall or the voice in a guided meditation.
Know that all this will take time but it will happen.
Start small, set your phone’s timer for two minutes. Try sitting or lying down and breathing. Focus on your object of one pointed attention and let it happen. Being your mind back if it wanders and enjoy the process.
One day you will simply be aware at the end of your meditation that your mind has not wandered at all. Extend the length of time you set your timer for and begin again.
Good luck and happy breathing.